The mother in law

A wise man told me and my husband before we got married, to not let ANYONE interfere with our married life.
I have the best mother-in-law in the world. I truly believe this. She is kind and really cares about me.
Many women do not like their mother-in-law, the secret to getting along is RESPECT.
Before getting married the respect must be established, it's not very hard just play by her rules. The truth is, all mothers want is a good woman for their son. All we have to do is prove to them that we are good women.
Many may ask, WHY do I need to prove HER something, I am marrying her son not her. Getting along with his mother is healthier for the couples relationship and easier for him, he doesn't have to be torn apart from the two women he most loves.
Here are some tips:
1. Remember her Birthday, Mother's Day etc.
   It's important to show her YOU care about her.
2. Talk to her
   Find out what she likes, and enjoy having a conversation every so often
3. Show her that you are there
     If she needs something she can count on you

And most importantly:
 Do not ever make the mistake of fighting, arguing with her.
Some mother-in-laws like to point things out, just don't say anything.
Its better to swallow whatever was coming out.

I love my mother-in-law. Sometimes she does little things like any other person. But I respect her greatly.

So I leave you with the quote in mind:
Once blessed with a wonderful mother, I am twice blessed with my mother-in-law.

Before the I DO...

So, about marriage?

It's not completely what I expected. It's complicated. I'm happy, but marriage is not something you can just glide through. It's something that has to be fed every single day.

There are some people that take marriage very (blah). Especially celebrities, I've read about so many of them that just go through 3 or 4 months and divorce appears. To me marriage is sacred.

So, if your planning to get married, remember its not only about the beautiful dress and ceremony its more than that.

I was taught that if you want to get married, you have to make sure to choose the right man, because marriage is not something to play with.

So I will say this,

1. Make sure you KNOW the man.

What's his temper like?

Is he sensitive and open?

Or is he closed up?

2. Be HONEST

It's important for a couple who's going to share their life together to be honest with each  other. A single secret can cost your happiness. It might seem exaggerated but some people  are not forgiving.

3. Don't leave IMPORTANT issues for later

Babies?

Careers?

Religion?

5. Make sure you LOVE the man, and HE loves YOU.

Only love will be able to cover the faults both of you have.

So, I may not be very experienced BUT, all my life I've been surrounded by marriages that survive the first year and go on to celebrate from their 50th anniversary to their 60th and till death separates them.

So I leave you with this:

Strike an average between what a woman thinks of her husband a month before she marries him and what she thinks of him a year afterward, and you will have the truth about him. ~H.L. Mencken, A Book of Burlesques, 1916