Annoying Him...

Yesterday, my husband and I got together with his parents and his sister's family.
His sister's husband was going to make his special lasagna and he wanted to demonstrate us how to cook it.
I watched as his wife kept interfering the whole time, and I also watched as he was starting to get annoyed. She kept correcting him and he kept doing what he was doing.
I was puzzled by this, because when I interfere my husband with something he is doing he dislikes it, so I try not to do it.
Yet this woman kept doing it, until her mother told her to leave him alone.
Then she said, "He doesn't care, he doesn't mind when I do it, he still loves me" then she looked at him to affirm it. He said "sure", then seeing that she got hurt, his face softened and said, "of course I do, my sweet little love". It was then that I understood that that was her way of annoying him.

Do you annoy your husband sometimes?

Annoying my husband makes me feel full of giddy happiness. I know that he absolutely loves me no matter how silly I am. I can be who I really am when I'm with him.

I can kiss or tickle him to death even if it bothers him, I can call him silly little nicknames that he hates, and I can spend the whole night explaining a book I just read without caring if I'm annoying him.

Do you feel the same way with your husband?? If you do, then you might as well agree with this quote:

I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life. - Rita Rudner


 HFFU8YE9WMYS

A glass of water

Love is the thing that enables a woman to sing while she mops up the floor after her husband has walked across it in his barn boots.  ~Hoosier Farmer

When my husband gets home and I hear him moving around the cabinets, my head immediately feels hot. Ever time that my husband gets thirsty he gets a new clean glass out of the cabinet. In about four hours, the apartment is filled with glasses half full of water. I constantly remind him to use the same one but he "forgets", and I can't help but feel desperate of picking up after him. 

What do you do in order for your man to change his ways? 

Is it even possible for him to change?

I have received various advice from friends.

One told me that I should buy disposable cups and eventually he will realize that every time he gets a new cup he is wasting his money.

Another told me to speak to him make him understand that its not fair that he uses so many glasses in one day.

Yet if I take the quote in consideration, its telling me to overlook the situation. That love should make me wash those glasses without complain. It puts me to think, how many things does my husband overlook of me? Things that annoy him and bother him? Yet, he loves me so he "sings, while mopping the dirty floor I'VE stepped on".

What would you do?

The mother in law

A wise man told me and my husband before we got married, to not let ANYONE interfere with our married life.
I have the best mother-in-law in the world. I truly believe this. She is kind and really cares about me.
Many women do not like their mother-in-law, the secret to getting along is RESPECT.
Before getting married the respect must be established, it's not very hard just play by her rules. The truth is, all mothers want is a good woman for their son. All we have to do is prove to them that we are good women.
Many may ask, WHY do I need to prove HER something, I am marrying her son not her. Getting along with his mother is healthier for the couples relationship and easier for him, he doesn't have to be torn apart from the two women he most loves.
Here are some tips:
1. Remember her Birthday, Mother's Day etc.
   It's important to show her YOU care about her.
2. Talk to her
   Find out what she likes, and enjoy having a conversation every so often
3. Show her that you are there
     If she needs something she can count on you

And most importantly:
 Do not ever make the mistake of fighting, arguing with her.
Some mother-in-laws like to point things out, just don't say anything.
Its better to swallow whatever was coming out.

I love my mother-in-law. Sometimes she does little things like any other person. But I respect her greatly.

So I leave you with the quote in mind:
Once blessed with a wonderful mother, I am twice blessed with my mother-in-law.

Before the I DO...

So, about marriage?

It's not completely what I expected. It's complicated. I'm happy, but marriage is not something you can just glide through. It's something that has to be fed every single day.

There are some people that take marriage very (blah). Especially celebrities, I've read about so many of them that just go through 3 or 4 months and divorce appears. To me marriage is sacred.

So, if your planning to get married, remember its not only about the beautiful dress and ceremony its more than that.

I was taught that if you want to get married, you have to make sure to choose the right man, because marriage is not something to play with.

So I will say this,

1. Make sure you KNOW the man.

What's his temper like?

Is he sensitive and open?

Or is he closed up?

2. Be HONEST

It's important for a couple who's going to share their life together to be honest with each  other. A single secret can cost your happiness. It might seem exaggerated but some people  are not forgiving.

3. Don't leave IMPORTANT issues for later

Babies?

Careers?

Religion?

5. Make sure you LOVE the man, and HE loves YOU.

Only love will be able to cover the faults both of you have.

So, I may not be very experienced BUT, all my life I've been surrounded by marriages that survive the first year and go on to celebrate from their 50th anniversary to their 60th and till death separates them.

So I leave you with this:

Strike an average between what a woman thinks of her husband a month before she marries him and what she thinks of him a year afterward, and you will have the truth about him. ~H.L. Mencken, A Book of Burlesques, 1916